Living Authentically

Recently, I had the chance to speak with writer, philosopher and poet Antonio DeGiorgio. And he shared some of his life story and his ideas about living an authentic life.

[quote]Living authentically is to remind yourself on a daily basis of who you are.[/quote]

[dropcap]Q[/dropcap]Tell me a little about your upbringing, and how you feel it shaped you as a person, your consciousness.

I always kind of… never really fit in. And I didn’t really understand why. And I wasn’t interested in a lot of the things other people were interested in. I always preferred the company of older people. I always liked to listen to their conversations, it seemed to resonate with me more. And I never really fit in with kids my age, was bullied throughout school so that really pulled me inward.

And I grew up in a dysfunctional family too, so my parents were always arguing fighting so that created tension between parents and kids. My parents are Italian immigrants so in that kind of environment the dad is most often the head of the family.

And in my case my dad was really rigid and really an assertive and aggressive type of person. And he had his ideas of what a family should look like and be like and what kids should look like and act like, and do and pursue.

I never had the permission to be or to grow into who I genuinely felt I was, or am.

[dropcap]Q[/dropcap]Why did you choose to study psychology? Did you think it was part of your life purpose?

I wanted to study psychology because I thought that in a way it was kind of pursuing something that would be acceptable to my parents but also because I was really interested in wanting to understand life so I kind of saw that as a happy medium. But psychology in the end didn’t really give me the answers I was searching for.

[dropcap]Q[/dropcap]If you could do it all again, would you choose the same path?

A. If I could go back in time and do it over and really operate independently, you know, make my own choices, I would’ve studied philosophy and religion and theology right from the get-go. I realized later on that it wasn’t really the school or the program itself that I was there for, but really it was the opportunity to get away from all the baggage.

An opportunity to have that space where I could really look at myself for the first time in my life and realize who I am. Who I was and what’s really important to me. And it took quite a while to really work through a lot of baggage.

Because consciously and usually subconsciously we pick up a lot of stuff a lot of messages, conflicting messages to, and it gets pushed back in our minds and we subconsciously operate from that, they become reactions in themselves and we don’t really understand what’s going on. And it took me some time to kind of meld those two and to find the genuine person that I was, that was beneath all of that.

[dropcap]Q[/dropcap]Do you believe that your destiny is decided by God?

I’ve come to the point where I don’t believe that there is a God outside of us. That we are all unique, individual, expressions of the one true infinite source.

We are not necessarily the ones that are doing the moving but we kind of sense the greater reality that we are an expression of. That’s kind of moving us.

When we allow ourselves to be guided by that, events start to synchronize. Opportunities come up that wouldn’t have come up. we meet people that we wouldn’t have met otherwise. Things just seem to coalesce and operate together.

Not every day is a perfect day, there are days where I lose that sense of connection. But then I realize it’s probably days when I’m allowing myself to get taken up by my own agenda. Piddly things, little things that don’t really matter in the big scheme of things, the big picture. I have to step back and get centred again. And just surrender and allow things to happen.

I remind myself that whatever visions, desires, or things that we want to achieve in life will happen in their own time if we properly surrender to the bigger process that underlies all of reality.

Just the very active surrendering kind of opens up the door. And I think that our intuitive voice will have an opportunity to come up and speak.

[quote]I want to ‘feel’ life. And ‘live’ life a the same time as understanding it.[/quote]

[dropcap]Q[/dropcap]How do you know what your ‘truth’ is?

A. Whenever I’ve pursued things or look for answers outside of myself or other people to give me validation or from a job to give me validation. A lot of times you end up feeling empty. I realize that if I’m on the right track I feel more whole more centred more calm, and more at peace with myself.

[quote]Everything operates for our betterment, our own good.[/quote]

[dropcap]Q[/dropcap]How do you manifest your desires in physical reality?

A. The purpose of the conscious mind is to really set a direction. It’s the central piece to setting everything in motion. And then the inner self is really what’s responsible for bringing everything else to happen.

A big ‘A-ha’ moment for me in my life was when I realize that a lot of the things in my life that I wanted to happen, even know I wanted it or desired it I didn’t really make the decision or I didn’t decide that that is what I wanted. And to me wanting is not enough.

You have to decide within yourself and be firm, that this is what I want to happen. A decision I would equate with an intention. When you intend something to happen, you’ve made a decision, and then you stick to that vision. And then you let it go and you let the universe take over.

I equate it to a garden you have an idea and intention and you plant it within the soil in the garden, which is the universe, and then you let the process take care of itself. The intention is planting the seed and then you just allowed nature to take it’s course. But we’re also responsible for weeding the garden. So you have to be clear on your vision, stay true to your vision, and not get lost in negative thinking or judgments. I don’t recommend blocking out negative thoughts, it’s just that you can’t identify with negative thoughts or worry.

[dropcap]Q[/dropcap]Why do you think we (humankind) are here, in physical form?

The inherent intention of this underlying reality is to express itself and to experience life, and to experiment that’s why we see such a variety in life. And it also gets expressed in our constant need to try something new, and the novelty.

It’s just that infinite source that’s behind everything, wanting to express itself and experience something new. When we can connect with that I think it makes the journey a lot simpler because you know you’re not having to piggyback success on your own shoulders, you can allow the universe to carry a lot of that burden for you.

[dropcap]Q[/dropcap]Do you know what your life purpose is?

I am at a point where I really dedicated myself to learning more about life and more about myself, I’m writing a book. And I would love to, at some point, start my own counselling business, and operate more from a spiritual perspective. With the purpose of helping people connect to that inner voice, that authentic place within them. And to encourage them to honour that and to honour who they are. Because the real secret is that we are all perfect as we are. And we just need to give ourselves permission to allow that to blossom and to bloom. And to work from the inside out instead of the outside in.

[dropcap]Q[/dropcap]Any final thoughts about living authentically or manifesting your desires?

Just because we don’t see things happening, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they aren’t happening. And it’s about allowing things to happen in their own time.